News — why didn't she want us to know

I truly and deeply believe that everything and everyone you encounter in your life has a purpose.  The idea of sharing my story/feelings was always frowned upon in my upbringing.  If you "aired your dirty laundry" you were either just looking for attention or you were just looking for attention.  I came from a family of "secrets," and I'm sure there were several others around us that dealt with issues the same way.  It would never come to a surprise for me to hear about something a family member had gone through months or years after the event was over...